Courage My Love vocalist Mercedes Arn-Horn posted a blog today about a previous tweet of mine. I wanted to address that.
First of all, apologies to Mercedes Arn-Horn and Craig Owens - I certainly didn’t mean to imply either of their band’s success was based solely on a relationship, though it seems my words were interpreted as exactly that.
The words in question:
Was I implying that her relationship could benefit the band? You betcha. That is 100% what I was implying, and I stand by it.
Did I mean that in a sexist way, or in a way demeaning to females in the music industry? Not even a little bit.
Those words don’t remotely mention Mercedes’ gender. Not once. It’s not implied either. I could have just as easily suggested a band would benefit from particular friendships or family ties. Mercedes interpreted my tweet as showing preference to only romantic-relationships, which isn’t at all the case - any kind of relationship can influence these sort of things. The tweet was badly worded, and certainly not meant to belittle Mercedes, and I apologize if she took it as such - but it certainly was not meant that way.
And those relationships should benefit bands. Headlining bands should be able to choose who’s going out on tour with them - obviously they’d prefer to take out friends, girlfriends, or whoever they’re most interested in. It’s quite common for friendships to dictate who’s getting which bands get attention, and something we should commend. Say Anything and Eisley are a prime example. Say Anything vocalist Max Bemis is married to Eisley’s Sherri DuPree-Bemis, and they’ve had the luxury of being able to tour together multiple times. Could that be deemed politics? Absolutely. Would anyone complain about that? Absolutely not - they’re husband and wife, and should spend as much time together as they please. It’s not a bad thing.
And will her relationship benefit her band? Yes. Two journalists I respect admitted they’d never heard of her before she appeared on Craig Owens’ Instagram. Am I implying this is strategic on her part? Absolutely not. That’s a terrible accusation, and one I’m a bit offended she’d accuse me of making it. But to say her band’s popularity won’t benefit from her dating a very beloved vocalist is unfair. She’s dating a celebrity - there’s been interest in celebrity romances from the beginning of time. Her band will receive attention for that - and when they do, she’ll be able to show how talented her and her bandmates are, based on their music. People may find out about Courage My Love through Craig Owens, but they’ll stick around because they love Courage My Love’s music and message.
It’s unfortunate that Mercedes took my words as offensive, and I apologize. Hopefully the hatchet can be buried, as I’ll likely attend their set this year at Warped - I use Warped to find new bands, and they’re certainly on my list now. Best of luck to Mercedes and Courage My Love.